How to Maintain Female Friendships
Being an adult is hard. We can all agree on that. I feel like most of my days are spent searching for moments that I can dedicate to not worrying about bills to pay and responsibilities to uphold. It's exhausting.Luckily being with friends can help all that melt away. However, because we are all swamped with our individual lives, it's easy to put maintaining your friendships on the back burner. I know this seems like one more daunting task, but it's important. Believe me. I live hundreds of miles away from almost all of my best friends, and without a bit of upkeep for our relationship, I would be very lonesome. Here's some quick tips to help keep your Ann and Leslie bond strong.
1) Get each other gifts.
It can be anything! Something small from Etsy, a $5 gift card to her favorite coffee shop, or treat her to dinner! Let the Sookie to your Lorelai know that her friendship still means the world to you. Since I live in Chicago, away from most of my best friends, Amazon Prime is my go to. I love ordering my friends gifts and getting them sent directly to their homes. It's fun for everyone.
2) Group chats are powerful.
I've mentioned before that I have a couple of large groups of girlfriends, and that they have kept my head on straight for most of my life. As we grew older our friendships started to go through some weak patches: insert the widespread usage of the iPhone. Group texting has brought us so much closer. I know I sound like the world's most cliché millennial right now, but it's true. If you have a group of girlfriends that you struggle to maintain conversation with on a regular basis, start a group chat on iOS or using WhatsApp. You'll know more about what's going on in your Phoebe and Monica's everyday lives than you could have ever hoped for. Added bonus: poignant gifs!
3) Take fitness classes together.
If you are #blessed enough to live close to the Dionne to your Cher, then take advantage! Lives can get busy with work, but fitness is always important. And you know you're way more likely to go to that hot yoga class if your BFF goes with you. If it's nice outside, then do a class out of your comfort zone! Boot camp in the park? Cardio kayak? Soul Cycle? You'll be glad you have someone to sweat it out with, and you'll feel much better after than if you two split a bottle of wine and a pizza (although that sounds wonderful to me always).
4) Do the things together that your significant others have no interest in.
You 100% know that your partner does not want to go to IKEA with you. Ever. But I bet your BFF will. So call up the Cece to your Jess. You'll be able to avoid the complaints from your partner and catch up with your person at the same time. It's a win-win. I recently did this, and me and my girl ended up talking and walking around IKEA three times before we realized it was 9:30 PM. WHOOPS.
5) Form a book club.
Yeah, I know, I know. I'm all about the damn book club. But that's because I love it SO MUCH. I love getting together with my friends with no pressure whatsoever except to talk about a piece of writing we all read. I love going from house to house each month and seeing how my friends incorporated the themes of the books into their hosting. The best part is, thanks to the magic of FaceTime, any gal pal around the globe can join you. If Oprah and Gayle have time to do it, so do you. And of course, if you have trouble choosing books you can all decide on, try our #LadyHustleReadingClub picks!
6) Resort to snail mail.
Sending funny or sappygreetingcards to my friends is one of my favorite ways to keep in touch. Plus it's probably just hipster enough for the Jane to your Daria. I find myself browsing the funny cards section of Etsy or local paper goods store more often than I'd like to admit. Sure, it's not the most practical form of communication, but who doesn't love getting mail from friends?
7) Spend time together away from boyfriends/girlfriends/husbands/wives.
It doesn't matter if it's just going to grab coffee or taking a long walk together. No matter how much you love your BFF's Jim Halpert, sometimes you just want to listen to Miley Cyrus and eat half a bag of chips without being judged. Because your friends just get you.
8) Watch a TV show together every week.
This is a fun way to guarantee at least 30 minutes to an hour together during a hectic workweek. I'm not a Bachelor fan myself, but I know plenty of women that are committed to watching it together! My friends and I did this with Grey's Anatomy in high school, and we all loved it. The drama of that (amazing) show had us all gasping and hypothesizing over what could possibly happen at Seattle Grace (what's that hospital called these days?) next. At the risk of sounding cheesy, if you and your Cristina Yang are #longdistancebffs, you can watch a show on FaceTime together. Give it a shot. Try Jane the Virgin! Seriously. I can't recommend that show enough and it's perfect for female friends.
9) Celebrate your friends successes.
If your friend accomplishes something huge, post it on social media! Tell everyone you know how proud of your Summer Roberts you are. If you don't want to be so public about it, send her a quick text and an online gift card to let her know her Marissa Cooper is celebrating her. #celebratefemalefriendship
So how do you keep your friendships strong? We want to hear it! Let us know if you try out any of these tips, and if they work for you! Galentine's Day, the best day of the year, is coming up!