What I learned from #GIRLBOSS

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Have you ever caught yourself daydreaming or toying with an incredible idea for a very long time? I’m talking about spaced out, head in the clouds, hands in the bank, “Let’s make moves,” daydreaming. Yeah, I do that at least six to seven times a day. Those dreams, inspiring thoughts, and motivation can quickly deteriorate. Oftentimes they are replaced by fear. Thoughts like, “I can’t afford to do that,” or even the all time hustle favorite, “WHAT IF I FAIL?”

One of the leading ladies of this Lady Hustle generation, Sophia Amoruso, founder of Nastygal Inc. and writer of one of NY Times best selling books, #GIRLBOSS, teaches us that none of that matters. Well it does matter, but those thoughts don’t deserve our undivided attention. Sophia has built an insanely strong and successful empire. You can find her inspirational quotes all over Instagram, Twitter and many other social media platforms. Her journey, her success, and her book have all proven that Sophia is in fact a hardcore, Lady Hustlin’ #GIRLBOSS. A force to be reckoned with.

I have read her book a few times, and continue to revisit it for inspiration, reminders, and motivation. I love this book! So much so that I decided to share a few things I learned from #GIRLBOSS.

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Unfortunately for most humans in the universe, things don’t always just fall into your lap. Fortunately, you’ve got spirit, a strong will, and a dream. That’s enough to go get what you want, put it on your lap, your desk, your bank account. Wherever it makes you feel good! Don’t stop because one person said no. Don’t stop.. Get it.. GET IT!

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"I’d been told for so long that the path to success was paved with a series of boxes you checked off, starting with getting a degree and getting a job, and I kept trying and failing at these, it sometimes seemed that I was destined for a life in the loser lane. But I always suspected that I was destined for, and that I was capable of, something bigger.”

I think this is a notion we have all struggled with. Get the diploma, get the job, marry the person, have the family, 401Ks, and a white picket fence… Or well, the brownstone if you’re a city girl like me. A lot of women have followed this recipe to a T. That creates a bit of pressure for women who are just getting their lives in order. So this is a friendly reminder, that you go at your own pace. You do what’s best for you and your hustle, and it doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. There is no exact recipe for success. You show up, work hard, and you kill it!

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“Abandon anything about your life and habits that might be holding you back.”

Way easier said than done, but trust me. When you get rid of the things that are keeping you stagnant, there is absolutely no way you won’t move forward. Like the saying goes, “If it doesn’t help you grow, it needs to go.”

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Here’s the thing, if you get up every day at noon, Netflix and chill with your lonesome and complain about how hard hustling is, it’s going to stay that way. If you get up in the morning, get dressed, research, network, and invest in yourself, it will show and other people will want to invest in you too.

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“There are secret opportunities hidden inside every failure.”

Remember when I mentioned that annoying thought we all get? The “What if I fail?” thought? There’s no room for that here. Because if you do fail, chances are there is an important lesson to be learned from that failure. You take notes, you trash it, and you keep it moving.

Someone once said, “9 out of 10 businesses fail. That’s why I created 10.” That has always stuck with me. Being a business gal myself, I’ve launched projects that have failed. I’ve started entire small businesses that have just plummeted. However today, I own a successful photography and design business, and I wouldn’t be able to say that if I hadn’t taken a chance on myself, and learned a few hard lessons along the way. So what if you fail? Eventually you will succeed.

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“You can’t act like you’ve arrived when you’re only just receiving the invitation.”

You'll find that in any industry, humility is important. There is always going to be someone who is better than you, who has more than you, who can do more. That doesn't disqualify you or make you a lesser person. It just means that you are forever working hard and learning. Yes, there are sayings like, "Fake it till you make it," and yes, that can apply to some areas of our hustle. However, sometimes we need to be honest with ourselves and say "Self, you just got here. Take several seats, pull out a pen and notepad and absorb." There is always room for growth and there is always something to be learned. Know what you can afford both mentally and financially. Build your way up with a solid foundation because no one wants to fall down the stairs of success and land on their face due to a poorly built step.

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“I know you’ve probably grown up with your parents telling you that you’re special every day for the past twenty years—it’s okay, my parents did too—but you still have to shape up and work hard just like everybody else.”

I grew up being able to do everything, and I don’t mean that in an “OMG I’m so perfect!” kind of way. I’m a fast learner, and I love to dabble into all the things, at all the times, ALL THE TIME. Naturally, people praise you when you do things well. When you do a lot of things well, you get A LOT of praise and support. There’s nothing wrong with that. Still I find that sometimes this causes us to develop a sense of entitlement. The bad kind of entitlement because contrary to popular belief, there is a good kind. We may feel like we shouldn’t have to work as hard, or do anything at all because well, we can do it all and we already did it all so someone should do it for us. NO…Sorry, it doesn’t work that way. Even Beyoncé shows up to work. We may not share the same resources Queen Bey has, but we do share the same amount of hours in a day (we’re practically related to her because of this). That’s enough time to get up and get shit done.

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#GIRLBOSS is a fantastic read and I had the best time learning from hustle queen Sophia. We hope you go and pick this up if you haven’t already. If you have, take time to revisit, get refreshed, dream again! Also, be sure to check out our #ladyhustlereadingclub and stay up to date with our current reads, findings and more.

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